"Are You Gay?"

Getting Passed Coming Out To the Family.

Coming out to your family is the hardest part of being gay. You could stay in the closet forever but the stress can take a toll on your everyday life in the future and the present. But if you do decide that you need to come out to the family, it's all about the buddy system. When you're coming out to the family have someone you know supports you and will be there for you when the storm is passed. They don't have to be with you at the time but if it helps, then by all means do it! Whether its your girlfriend/boyfriend your best friend, a relative, even your pet, you'll go through this easier with a person to tell you that you'll get through this together.

My Experience
I kept in the closet after dating 3 girls in secret. After a failing grade I had my phone taken, but due to the fact that my current girlfriend was thousands of miles away, I didn't want her worrying about why i was gone. I received an emergency phone from a friend which I texted off of behind my moms back. She soon caught me and read through the messages. Needless to say, things blew up she hacked my facebook, and I had to change my password to every little thing. I cried and told her I just wanted to die and when I got home we had an argument that ended in a calm conversation . I had to come out and say that i was gay, I was forced to, and after all had settled i got my phone back and i spent the entire day talking to my girlfriend again, she comforted me and reminded me how much she loved me and that we will get through this. After that it became easier to tell the rest of the family i was gay, though they may not agree with and some shun me for it, i knew that i can continue my happy life out of the closet after such a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. My girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years even after that hard time of keeping it all a secret. Its better to be out and less stressed than in the closet and constantly paranoid someone will find out.

Basic Break Down

1. Use the "buddy system"
2. Have support
3. Plan for the worst but expect the best
4. Be confident
5. Know that it takes time to settle in
6. Don't make it worse for yourself and get caught 
7. Say it before you're forced to say it
8. Know it's not always a choice to be gay
9. Bring reason into the conversation (Don't just yell back and forth with accusations)
10. Know You're Not Alone

Many Faces

You aren't alone.

So 15 years of a crazy life have made me into the well rounded person I am. I came out of a background that most people dwell in. I've seen the good, the bad, and the ugly and survived hate throughout my life. Through intelligence, reasoning, and stupid mistakes I've come far from being just the daughter of a single parent and a drunk dad. Come along with me, and i will take you though my life story as well as tips on how to make your life better no matter what situation you're in. I believe in the brighter side of everything and that you are never alone. Follow me through the never ending journey that is my life.

 I am Liz the wolf,

 the lesbian,
 the gamer,

 the only child,

 the victim,

 the bully,

 the player,

 the played,

 the lover, 

 the hated,

 the beaten,

 the liar,

 the forgiven,

 the student,

 the teacher,

 the broken,

 the fixed,

 the cheerful,

 the weirdo,

 but you can call me Liz :)